About the Advisory Board

The KPSA Advisory Board serves as the strategic compass for the Kink Professional Standards Alliance. Comprised of thought leaders, seasoned professionals, and trusted stewards from across kink-affirming fields, the board exists to uphold the mission, integrity, and growth of our ecosystem.

 

Each member brings their insight, accountability, and lived experience to help shape ethical standards, guide professional development, and ensure the KPSA remains aligned with its values as we expand our reach and offerings.

What we do

The Advisory Board supports KPSA in the following ways:

  • Ethical Oversight: Reviewing and advising on evolving ethical frameworks like PERK™, practitioner conduct, and internal accountability processes.
  • Strategic Guidance: Providing direction on emerging trends, needs, and opportunities within the fields of kink-affirming care, education, and research.
  • Program Development: Informing the structure and content of KPSA programs including the CPKP certification, TBCN support network, and KICE continuing education pathways.
  • ommunity Representation: Offering diverse perspectives to ensure KPSA initiatives remain inclusive, culturally relevant, and community-informed.
  • Stewardship & Support: Serving as a sounding board for the founder and contributing wisdom to ensure long-term sustainability and excellence.

Meet the team

Leilani Ramos, M.S. is a specialized Licensed Professional Counselor Associate (LPC-A) and the Owner of Threshold Counseling/Private Practice in Texas. As a Clinician and Advocate, Leilani focuses on serving high-risk professions and individuals grappling with Frontline Trauma.

Experience in Law Enforcement and Trauma

Leilani brings a unique and invaluable perspective to her practice, rooted in her 15 years of experience as a retired police officer. During her law enforcement career, which included roles as a patrol officer, academy instructor, plain clothes investigations, and a SWAT Officer, she was recognized as Officer of the Year in 2015 for Life Saving. She specializes in supporting those navigating critical incidents and officer-involved shootings.

She now serves the community by sitting on the State of Texas TCOLE (Texas Commission on Law Enforcement) Licensee Wellness Advisory Committee, contributing to the mental health and wellness of Peace Officers throughout the state of Texas.

 

Specialized, Affirming Clinical Practice

Leilani’s clinical practice is deeply distinguished by her commitment to genuinely informed and affirming care. She is a Kink Conscious Professional who trained with the Modern Sex Therapy Institute, with advanced knowledge and lived experience in Fetishsexuality and BDSM.

Recognizing the transformative potential of somatic healing, Leilani is an advocate for alternative pathways of healing through psychosomatics within an ethical framework. She identifies as a Holistic FemDom Practitioner, serving as a practitioner within the BDSM Collaborative Network, which integrates self-study and the healing modality of BDSM to access deeper parts of the self.

 

Community Leadership, Education, and Media

Known for her roles as an Advocate, Educator, Consultant, and Practitioner, Leilani is a committed leader in the community, serving as a Founding/Board Member of KPSA and the Owner of The Armory, a BDSM Studio.

As an educator, Leilani is a respected presenter on vital topics, including:

  • Alternative Pathways of Healing & Shadow Work at The Heart of Healing 
  • Kink in Culture at the International Institute of Clinical Sexology
  • Rage as a Signal with Embody Sol Therapy
  • Integrative Kink & Self Study for KPSA

Furthermore, Leilani is an accomplished edge player specializing in working with fire. This performance work has been featured in the media, including a spotlight on Fire Play in BDSM/Erotica Magazine (April 2023, Vol. 10) and an appearance in the kink-centered film, "Lucky 7."

 

Leilani Ramos (She/Her) consistently combines professional rigor with cultural competency to support her clients and communities.

 

https://thearmorystudio.com/

https://thresholdcounseling.clientsecure.me/

 

email Leilani@threshtalk.com

Leilani Ramos

Jerome Triplin II is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and seasoned sex educator who has spent over two decades guiding individuals and couples toward deeper connection, healing, and liberation. With 20 years as a sex educator and 5 years in clinical practice, Jerome bridges the wisdom of therapeutic insight with embodied, experiential approaches to intimacy and relational repair.

 

Rooted in lived experience as a member of both the kink and polyamorous communities, Jerome brings not only professional expertise but also a deep personal understanding of the complexities, joys, and challenges of alternative relationship structures and erotic expression. His work sits at the intersection of healing, pleasure, and justice—helping people move through relational stuck points, reclaim authentic desire, and practice consent and communication as pathways to freedom.

 

Drawing from both clinical training and community-based education, Jerome creates spaces where vulnerability becomes strength and erotic expression becomes medicine. As a speaker and facilitator, he brings warmth, depth, and a trauma-informed lens that empowers participants to explore with safety and courage. At the Edge of Excellence Summit, Jerome contributes a vision where kink, care, and ethics are not only compatible, but essential to collective healing and embodied liberation.

 

Jerome Triplin II

 

Mistress Mia Payne is a Transformational ProDomme, Sacred Kink Coach/educator, and the owner/Mistress at Payne With Purpose, a self-development dungeon. Her practice focuses on Transformational BDSM, rites of passage work, trauma recovery, shame release, and self development. She has a unique perspective as a once-fundamentalist-Christian-turned Mistress, and can hold space for those who are faith-observing or in the midst of deconstruction. She is located east of Toronto Ontario in Canada, and offers services locally, onsite through travel within Canada, and Virtually. She is passionate about Kink education, and when she isn't holding a whip and a leash, you can find her at her laptop writing, or cuddling with her partner and their Cornish Rex named Cosmo.

Mistress Mia Payne has been a professional dominatrix for 10 years, and the past seven of those she has spent working with clients who wish to rediscover their inner strength, find their self-confidence, increase their resilience, as well as process grief and trauma.

As a kink educator and advocate, Mistress Mia helps those who wish to improve or learn new skills- both for personal and professional use. She also assists couples in learning how to use power exchange to create deeper bonds, and helps them learn how to experience the richest joys of BDSM safely.

Mistress Mia

I'm Monroe—a life coach, kink educator, and professional disruptor specializing in power dynamics, consent frameworks, and sacred kink practices. I work at the intersection of embodied power, systems thinking, and identity reclamation.

 

As a kink and BDSM practitioner who came to this work through lived experience and deep personal study, I bring a grounded lens to everything I do. My background includes extensive training in personal and professional development, helping folks find their most authentic form of self-expression—especially when it challenges dominant narratives.

My service to the Advisory Board is rooted in a commitment to depth and integrity. I like hard questions. I believe in getting uncomfortable in the messiness of life and the work. And I do my best to speak plainly when it counts. This is how we build something that lasts.

 

I’m not a therapist—and I don’t pretend to be. My role isn’t to diagnose or treat; it’s to disrupt what no longer fits. Whether that’s outdated systems, stuck frameworks, or limited self-perception, I help people move toward what’s truer, freer, and more aligned with who they’re becoming.

 

Lady M (M for Monroe) (she/her) is a Lifestyle Domina, coach, storyteller, and practitioner of conscious power exchange with over 8 years of lived experience in authority transfer-based relationships. With a 20-year background in professional coaching and personal development, her work bridges embodiment, relational clarity, and deep energetic presence.

 

Known for her direct approach and strong grounding in lived practice, Lady M brings both tenderness and structure to the spaces she leads. Her coaching supports individuals and power exchange dynamics in becoming more fully expressed, integrated, and intentional.

She identifies as a sacred disruptor—someone who lovingly challenges systems, roles, and habits that no longer serve. Her work invites others to engage the uncomfortable with honesty, and to meet transformation with discipline, devotion, and self-responsibility.

 

Lady M is a founding member of the Kink Professional Standards Alliance (KPSA) and serves as an instructor and mentor in the 2026 CPKP cohort.

Lady M

Commitment to Excellence

The KPSA Advisory Board meets quarterly and engages in active communication throughout the year. Members commit to confidentiality, collective decision-making, and aligning our practices with the values of cultural humility, embodied integrity, and principled power exchange.

 

This board is not just about representation, it's about responsibility. And each of us holds it with care.